The prospect of hanging out, talking or dating an NBA player sounds fun, carefree and luxurious (without paying for it, of course).  There’s a lot of women all over the world looking to catch an NBA player and are doing their best to stand out from the crowd and spend the night (or longer) with a player. So what’s the best way to get in touch with an NBA player? There are many tried-and-true methods that groupies employ and here is what you need to know if you’re going to be successful in your mission.

Be Hot

We’re not going to mince words here. When you have women throwing themselves at you, NBA players have the luxury of selecting the ones they vibe with the most. And when we say “vibe” we mean the ones they find the most attractive according to their tastes. Though many NBA players end up with their high school or college sweethearts, NBA bachelors have a affinity to models, supermodels, (even Instagram models), actresses, singers, Kardashians, and other famous types. We’re not saying you have to have the looks of a model slash actress, but it certainly helps your cause.

Get Into the Right Nightclubs

Now that you think you have the genetics, find yourself a way to get into an NBA city’s biggest and most-exclusive clubs. No doubt, you’ll run into a couple players that way. A lot of players are caught up in a culture of going out to celebrate wins (or losses), have a party, and spend some of their millions. The only problem is that they tend to go to exclusive clubs. Thus, you have to hang out in places that are hard to get into and can be a little pricey. If you’re going to shoot your shot, though, it’s a good idea to do some research on popular NBA clubs and get there late at night.

Use a Dating Site

NBA players aren’t usually on Bumble or Tinder, but you might be able to catch a high school star or good college player with second round prospects. it’s unlikely, but a very popular choice that you can make is to go on a dating website where NBA players are known to frequent. On some dating sites, you can really run into celebrity profiles but the main thing is to find a quality website to increase your chances. There, you will have a great chance of finding a guy, but you’ll have to vet them beforehand to make sure they are who they say they are. You don’t want to find someone that is trying to play you for a fool.

Get Close To Players Friends, Family

Another thing that aspiring groupies can do is to close to those closely-connected to those players. Whether they’re best friends or agents or club owners or bodyguards, they can open doors for groupies. Literally and figuratively. According to the experts on groupies for NBA players, one of the best things that you can do is get to know security guys. You could date them and get behind closed doors or you can maybe ask them for a favor as a friend. Either way, you’re going to need to know the right people if you have any hope of getting into the places where NBA players hang out.

Slide Into Players’ DMs

This is a no-brainer. No longer can groupies just dress sexy and hang out near the players tunnel after the game in hopes of catching their eye.  Most NBA players are on Instagram or Snapchat or Twitter, and all groupies are on social media. So use those platforms to slide into their DMs and if they take a shine to you, start exchanging messages. If you get to the point of messaging one another, that’s a good sign because the player can “vet” the groupie by looking at the photos in their feed (at least on Instagram).

Have an “In”

The last way that you can get an NBA player interested in you is by having an “in”. Maybe you know someone or maybe you have a rich friend that can get you sitting next to the bench at a game. No matter what way you get to have access to NBA players, you can’t ruin the opportunity. You have to make sure that you won’t reflect poorly on the person that gets you access to the players, too. It’s a balancing act, and it’s one that you can’t afford to have a misstep on.

Dating an NBA player, even for a little while, is something that many aspire to do. They would love the chance to have a good time with them and live in the lap of luxury. However, getting within their proximity isn’t easy. You are going to invest time and money into this endeavor and still have to get a lot of luck for it all to come together.