I gave another guy oral sex when I was drunk – does this mean I’m gay?
DEAR DEIDRE: I STARTED to give a guy in a club oral sex before I realised what I was doing.
I always thought I was straight, so does this mean I’m not?
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I’m 28 and my best mate is a gay man. We went to a gay club for his stag do.
We were hammered from our pub crawl, and by the time we got to the club, I could hardly stand up.
A guy at the bar started chatting with me. He seemed cool and bought me a couple of drinks.
Assuming I was gay, he followed me into the gents. Down the corridor, he pulled me towards him and kissed me.
He pointed to the cubicle and I couldn’t think straight. I’m pretty sure I started to give him oral sex before I came to my senses and ran out of the toilet.
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I woke up the following morning with my girlfriend by my side and I was wracked with guilt.
Did I cheat?
DEIDRE SAYS: Yes, you cheated. But are you gay? No, I doubt it.
It is easy to blame alcohol but in this instance, your guard was down and you got into a compromising position with another man – something you’ve never considered before.
It wasn’t right to cheat, whatever the gender, but he made the moves and you got carried away.
Telling your girlfriend about it would spell doom for your relationship and bring her so much upset.
Instead, channel all your energy into what you have with her. My support pack Relationship MoT will help.